I Was Saving You, But You Were Killing Me…

I Was Saving You, But You Were Killing Me…

You know that one person. You love them or at least like them. They’re family, friends, your romantic partner, coworkers, they can be anyone quite frankly. You’re always there for them when they need you, whether its simply giving them a ride somewhere, spotting them a couple bucks or something as big as staying up all night comforting them or going to their ex’s house to kick some ass. Whatever it is most of the time if you can do it for them or help them in some way you’re there. You’re saving them, but they’re killing you.

But where are they when you need them????

Nowhere to be fucking seen that’s where. SURE maybe when you ask for their help and they say no or come up with a excuse it doesn’t bother you too much cause you can easily do the thing yourself, it’d just be easier or more comforting with them or anyone really. But all of a damn sudden you need them and they’re a ghost in the damn wind. You know this is the way it’s gonna be, but sometimes you can’t help but ask, hoping that this one time, they have your back. And then you end up disappointed when you get the same answer or excuse that they always give.

Look come here, lets talk about this…. I know that you love them, they’re like family to you (if they aren’t literally a blood relative anyway). But they’re toxic as shit, and you need to let them go. They aren’t benefiting your life in anyway, their stealing precious time that you could be using to cultivate other meaningful relationships in your circle. It’s not selfish and definitely not mean, do NOT let them guilt trip you into going back to being their go to person.

It’s not healthy or positive. I promise you will find someone who can match the amount of effort you put into the relationship. That person isn’t worth it. Let them be.

  • Dymond Moore

    Say it louder for the people in the back!

  • This is so true! Just what I needed to read too because there’s someone I need to cut out and I’ve been thinking about how to do it.

    Single Vegas Girl

  • Very true. Sometimes we don’t realize until later how toxic people have been in our lives. Follow your gut, and if a situation feels wrong, it probably is. Letting go can be a challenge, but it’s not impossible. You won’t know what breathing fresh air feels like until you’re breathing it afterwards.

    Ashlynn | http://thecrimsoncardigan.com

  • Leslie

    This is too true. There are too many toxic relationships or friendships sometimes and and we don’t even know it

  • I couldn’t have said it better! I am very guarded when it comes to who I spend time with for this very reason. I love your blog!!!!


    • Theo Person


    • Me too. But I’m an introvert and a homebody so it’s rare i spend too much time with anyone else except my love. Thanks!

  • Jen

    Yessss. Just those people who don’t put in the same effort or even people who can’t go out of their way for you once in a while. God forbid. It’s like why are we friends again?! Good stuff, enjoyed reading!
    XX Jen beautylifemom.com

    • Ugh ik they’re such a pain. It took me sooo ling to stop being so nice and tell em off.